The body-wired healing method
I got into weightlifting after being strong-armed to pick up a barbell by my always supportive, "sees more in me than I see in myself", husband-Jordan. Competitively, there's not a whole lot accessible to a rural living, baby raising, work-from-home mom still learning how to make herself a priority. I wanted to Crossfit, but a 3-4 hour (drive time + workout + drive time back) chunk out of each day wasn't do-able, and I definitely wasn't at a place to feeling worthy of that luxury.
Weightlifting ended up being the ingredient that was missing from my life - it paired well with my humble home yoga practice
(in fact the two body-wired strategies compliment one another quite well), and gave me the first sense of a healing experience of being fully embodied, aware of emotions that activated in my physical body, and I began stepping into my own strength in new and exciting ways.
As a holistic health coach, I am constantly reminded of how past traumas, our old emotional wounds, play out physically on the body. I began to understand that for my old self, and for many of the women I was working with, that nothing-no pill, or powder, or program, or product, or personal trainer, or professional guru can solve a problem that's been created from a lack of self love.
Because when you're dissociating, you can't see your worth.
I'll restate this-NOTHING, there is absolutely nothing that can solve a problem that has been created from a woman's dissociating and lack of self love. That is the root cause. That is what must be rewired first. Then, and only then do you see that absolute transformation a woman makes from victimized to victorious in her healing, health and happiness.
I'd always understood, intellectually, that what I'd experienced as a young girl had caused me to sense a loss of control over my body. I understood the logic behind the root of my shame and self disgust. Like most, I treated my body like I felt about it-as if I didn't really have a choice, powerless to my vices and numb to everything else. I knew that what I was doing wasn't helping, but everything I'd already tried (talk therapy, self-help books, journaling, meditation...) hadn't helped either.
From my own experiences of Complex Trauma, Suicide, Postpartum Depression and PTSD, the intense weightlifting sessions presented a unique opportunity to think about my own trauma recovery, healing and growth with a new perspective. I remember the first time I posted an Instagram Story Video of myself lifting an amount of weight I'd never thought possible and captioned it "This is my Therapy". And in that moment, I felt more connected to my self (body and soul) than I could ever remember.
Overtime, I discovered something magnificent; the Body-Wired Healing Method. I had begun to harness the power of my physical body through practices that facilitated an improvement in my abilities to take care of myself in healthier ways, that presented self-empowering choices that connected me to the physical body I'd so long dissociated from.
This, new Body-Wired Healing Method, coupled with the fact that I began to hear countless more trauma stories from clients and fellow lifters, inspired me to create the Live Happy On Purpose project.
I now coach women through my Body-Wired Healing Method that promotes physical fitness strategies to facilitate healing for trauma-impacted women and young girls. Strength training, when approached in a trauma-enlightened way, can foster resilience, increase autonomy, provide empowered choice patterning, improve functioning of the nervous system, and promote a positive connection to self and others.
Women can expect to develop inner body sensational awareness, self trust and greater connection to self and others. Not only does physical fitness open the door to better health and higher quality of life-it also produces a chemical release that instantly boosts mood and energy levels. The physical strength developed in strength training can translate to self-trust as a woman learns to bring a sense of curiosity to the process of attempting both new and familiar movements under increased resistance. Incrementally practicing emotional regulation and the acceptance of failure and success, as stress intensity increases.
If you want to learn more about working with me and the Body-Wired Healing Method, let's chat!